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[Jasi]

 

Like the first time I came over his stomach was hurting and he layed in my lap and whined about it, hahaha

 

 

I did a double take reading that sentence...

[Kisseena]

What did you think it said? XD

[Jasi]

...nevermind.

[Kisseena]

...oh...OH. WELL THEN

[Twinrova]

Aw yeah that sucks your friends are being dumb about it. I mean I understand where they're coming from, sometimes older dudes can creep on younger chicks and it's weird but they should at least try to get to know him first and not treat YOU like crap because of it. If you guys are happy and he's treating you right (which I assume he is due to how happy you are ) then there's nothing wrong with it. And like JRP said, there've been lots of people with ~10 years between them and they've been fine. Age tends to get less important the older you get.

 

AND YEAH you're more than welcome to gush about him here. We understand.

[Kisseena]

Yeah no he's not creepy at all. His neighbors have a 14 year age gap between them as well.

It also just bugs me because he came to my party and they didn't even take the opportunity to get to know him. Super annoying.

[Twinrova]

That's dumb. I hope they come around eventually :/

 

Have you told your parents?

[wisp]

I think people in their early 20s think it's weirder than people a little older do, I guess? At that age I would have never considered dating someone 10 or more years older than me, but now I've known several couples with large age gaps like that, and it's not as weird? Sometimes I still find it a little surprising, but generally not in a "wow, ew" kind of way. I think most people kind of settle into a fairly stable "adult" personality sometime in their 20s, so after that happens I think there's less of a chance for the age gap to cause horrible problems.

 

That's terrible that your friends didn't even want to get to know the guy. I feel like if you're with him long enough they're bound to come around though.

[Jasi]

I think it's basically once you graduate college, age gaps aren't so weird. The problem with age gaps in high school and college is that you're in vastly different walks of life—like, "What does a working professional with a retirement plan and a mortgage want to do with a high school / college student worrying about final exams and getting up for their 8AM", that kind of thing. Post-college, things even out. You're both young professionals, so it's not creepy.

Edited by Jasi, 28 April 2015 - 12:31 PM.

[wisp]

I feel like (in my experience, anyway) it's less about the different phases of life and more about the personal stability. When I was in college, most of my friends and I didn't have our personalities fully developed, and most of us weren't really emotionally stable either. Plenty of us dated people who were out of college and working steady professional jobs, and the nail in the coffin for those relationships had more to do with growing apart as we all matured differently.

[Jasi]

I mean they're interrelated issues...that seems like two ways of saying the same thing.

[wisp]

Maybe? Maybe I was reading your post a little differently than you were thinking it. XD

 

I read your post like you were saying that a working adult and a college student wouldn't be interested in each other because of their different practical priorities/immediate responsibilities, whereas I was looking at it more from the emotional standpoint. 

 

I mean, those things can be related somewhat, but I feel like we're talking about slightly different things. I'm not trying to be difficult, I promise. XD

[Kisseena]

That's dumb. I hope they come around eventually :/
 
Have you told your parents?

LOL NO
We're working towards that

[Fëanen]

For what it's worth, my aunt and late uncle had a very happy marriage, and they were 15 years apart in age. Like all couples they had issues, but I don't think age contributed to any of them; they were undoubtedly the loves of each others' lives. This was in the early-mid 60's, and I think older man-younger woman marriages were somewhat more common in those days,  - of course, gender roles were far less flexible too.

[Delphi]

My grandpa is nine years old than my grandma. He just hadn't found someone that he could be his oddball self around until her.

...at least until recently because she's gone loony but I have the sneaking suspicion that has more to do with her age -now- (she has anger issues and particular issues with her memory that are consistent with early stages of Alzheimer's so I wonder if her recentish personality changed have to do with that) and nothing to do with back then. You wouldn't know there's a near ten year age difference between them.

Age is a weird thing in relationships. For some people it's everything and for others it's a non-issue. If it's a non-issue for you and him then party on. Leave the loopy heads behind. Once you find the person you want to marry/live your life with, they fill in a lot of gaps you never thought one person could socially.

Marry someone you'd consider your best friend is I guess is what I'm saying? Lol

[frogmonkeys]

My stepdad is 9 years older then my mom. My brother in law is 8 or 9 years older then my sister. My little sister has been with her fiance for a few years and has two kids with him and he is 19 years older then her. If you love someone and its legal then good for you guys. Even if you don't love them still good for you.

[Selena]

My best friend's parents were about ten years apart.

 

After I left school and started working, age gaps just stopped being a huge deal -- both in terms of romance and friendship. The only time an age gap can be offputting is when your mental states and interests are vastly different. But if you're all on the same page, it's really no big deal. It's not exactly uncommon for girls to like older dudes, anyway.

 

People just always assume the worst and look for drama to gossip about. Eat those people.

[Hana-Nezumi]

It's cool Kissy! My boyfriend and I have an 8 and a half year difference between us, and we've been together and happy for over 4 years. Actually, I think it helps us get along better. I totally geek out about 80s and early 90s retro stuff which someone my own age probably wouldn't get, and he's just as baffled by this new age of twitters and instagrams and snapchats as I am.

[wisp]

It pains me to think of the 80s and 90s as "retro" T_T

[Hana-Nezumi]

I'm so sorry. XD

[Dizzy]

It pains me to think of the 80s and 90s as "retro" T_T

This. So much this. x___x

[Delphi]

...it occurs to me that it's now been over a year since I got my dog and posted about her. She looks completely different now.

She finally has her fluffy tail back and she is very proud of it.
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Also have a video of her demonstrating what a goof she is with her squeaky toys.

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Edited by Delphi, 26 August 2015 - 10:35 PM.

[wisp]

Your dog is so cuuuuuute. 

[Fëanen]

Is it time for another pet pictures thread? I have enough cat pictures to keep it going for the rest of my life XP

[Twinrova]

YEESSSSS I WANT TO SPAM BIRDS PIX AT YOU GUYS

[wisp]

Yes! I thought about making one of these the other day. I'm too lazy to make one right now, but if someone else wants to start one I will be 100% likely to post in it later.

 

I might even go try to dig out some old pictures of pets I had as a kid.

[Jasi]

blehh can't you guys just go look at my instagram @homardblanc

Edited by Jasi, 27 August 2015 - 12:31 PM.

[Kisseena]

MY AUNT HAD A WEDDING AND I ACCIDENTALLY LOOKED LIKE ELSA.

 

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EDIT: WAY TO TURN THESE THE WRONG WAY, UPLOADER

Edited by Kisseena, 08 September 2015 - 06:20 PM.

[Hana-Nezumi]

Wow kissy, that dress looks beautiful on you!!

[Selena]

Yes, beautiful dress. Shame about the gravity fluctuation forcing your house to tilt so much.